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Re: Finally Getting Somewhere

James Flinders — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 10:02:13 -0000

I'm kinda with you on the social anxiety. Knowing I'm going to be in any unfamiliar social situation triggers my flight reflex so strongly.

I'm a natural social hermit though so it acts as a good excuse for not going out when i don't want to ;) (nothing like putting a positive spin on a mental issue)

best of luck to you :)

Re: The Almost Compulsory 2011 Summary Post

Marylin — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:56:46 -0000

*hugs*
This year will have more memories. The fog is horrible, and you don't even realise it's there for most of it. x

Re: Finally Getting Somewhere

Angela — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 18:33:27 -0000

Thanks! I'm feeling pretty optimistic, and I've been lucky enough to not have any major side effects so far, which is even better.

Re: Finally Getting Somewhere

Marylin — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 19:22:46 -0000

Glad to hear things went well at the doc's honey. I've been on an SSRI for just over 3 years now - helps with my anxiety as well as depression. It keeps me on a more even keel, instead of wayyy below it, followed by spiky sky-high moments! >_<
*hugs*

Re: Finally Doing That Which I Have Discussed So Many Times

Angela — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 02:12:14 -0000

Thank you all for your support... this is why I love all the people on the Internet so much (well, most of them, anyway!) <3

Re: Finally Doing That Which I Have Discussed So Many Times

awlbiste — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 20:45:18 -0000

I'm glad you've taken the huge step of making an appointment. Maybe you can find someone to be accountable to, so you don't cancel. Is there anyone you trust to take you to the appointment? I had my mom drive me to my first few appointments, she waited in the car, and then took me home. Don't let the crazy talk you out of it, tell it to shut the hell up.

I've had GAD for, well, a long ass time. Really I've been prone to anxious feelings for as long as I can remember, though I wasn't diagnosed til I was 19. When I got treatment and learned to deal with it I felt like an entirely different person, in the best way.

You're awesome and you can totally do it.

Re: Finally Doing That Which I Have Discussed So Many Times

Ratshag — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 12:52:31 -0000

Is lucks and lovin' supportifications.

We lives in a world where nobody thinks twice about gettin' medical help fer they's kidneys or they's heart, but when it comes to yer brain, what be orders of magnitude more complicateds, we's all supposed ta just tough it out and fix it through will power. Fuhg that noise. I takes medicine fer ta keep me blood pressure where it belongs, an' sometimes I's taken antidepressifiers fer ta manage me serotonins. Is no different.

Re: Finally Doing That Which I Have Discussed So Many Times

Lexa Adams — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 11:00:24 -0000

*hugs* It does take a lot of courage to admit when you need help, especially for things as unquantifiable as mental illness. I still rarely talk about my own, though most people in my life know that I suffer from depression and anxiety. For some reason, that doesn't make it easier to admit that I am truly ill, and not simply broken. Between meds and therapy, though, I am improving all the time. The jump from non-functioning to functioning(omgIamsupportingusfinancially) was pretty drastic! But it's proof that I am better and will keep getting better. So, I wish you all the best and lots of luck and courage to keep going. You'll take a lot of steps forward and just as many back, but it's all part of the process. :) There are many of us you know from FC (me included, of course) who are very understanding and supportive of mental health things if you ever need to chat.

Re: Finally Doing That Which I Have Discussed So Many Times

Pike — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 10:50:50 -0000

Best of luck! I finally summoned up the courage to see a doctor a few months ago (for anxiety, not depression, but they're similar, I think) and since then I've started meds and therapy and I think they're helping. Hopefully you get some help, as well!

Re: Oh Kotex, You Do Not Know Periods… Or Maybe I Don’t… Someone Here Is Clueless!

awlbiste — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 20:47:20 -0000

I guess all my underpants fall into the "full coverage non-binding not-concerned-with-sexy" category. That said, I wouldn't wear a pad if my entire life depended on it. THAT said, I only have a period if I feel like it. (I don't feel like it because I'm not having sex and don't need the non-violated uterus confirmation).

Also, I like oversharing. A lot.

Re: In Which I Am Amazed That The Kardashians Have Not Kardashianised Christmas (Although I Am Waiting For The Kristmas With The Kardashians Special – Or Did I Miss It Already?)

Angela — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 22:21:16 -0000

I don't necessarily think they are stupid (stupid is my fall back word for... well, things I don't like. Although I think their behaviour in public does fall into the 'stupid' category, and that is what they are famous for. Urgh. And, hey, KK fibbed to Australian customs and immigration, which is kinda not cool.)... although I think that Mum is the main drive behind the whole thing. I'm more repulsed by the whole fascination with them - they had a pretty awful TV show, design what appear to be rip-off hand bags , and have been able to get some nice contracts going. That's about it. I don't see much of it lasting either, to be honest. I just wish the world could be fascinated with people who showed some depth of character.

Re: In Which I Am Amazed That The Kardashians Have Not Kardashianised Christmas (Although I Am Waiting For The Kristmas With The Kardashians Special – Or Did I Miss It Already?)

awlbiste — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 21:51:23 -0000

While I would never call myself a Kardashian fan, I think the bashing on them is a little goofy. What they know how to do is market themselves--really, really well. Kim herself co-owns a clothing boutique, a shoe line, various clothing lines for department stores, and has multiple fragrances. (I read a lot of women's magazines, it's a guilty pleasure). So yeah, I think they come across as superficial and goofy but I don't think any one of those sisters are anything close to stupid. Sorry for the rantyness, I just, I dunno, it bothers me.

ANYWAY. I'm totally going to marry a rich dude some day. *cough* *hack*

Re: Farewell, Izzy

Marylin — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 10:31:18 -0000

I really don't get what on earth would make *anyone* want to do such a thing.
So sorry sweetheart. Izzy was a gorgeous dog. xxx

Re: Farewell, Izzy

Ratshag — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 08:12:29 -0000

I am so very sorry to hear this. /hugs

Re: Farewell, Izzy

Phillip Oriol — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:54:56 -0000

I am sorry for your lose. What kind of person intentionally goes out and poisons food to kill dogs. That is so fucked up.

Re: Farewell, Izzy

Jaedia — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:24:48 -0000

I'm more than a little speechless.. People are utterly disgusting. What's the point? I don't understand..

Re: Farewell, Izzy

Dechion — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:22:49 -0000

/hugs

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

Caballera — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 23:58:13 -0000

I don't think wanting to hear 'I love you' makes you a bad person, or a person at fault or a person that has too much need. To hear it twice in 8 months is pretty sad. We only get one life, try and be as happy as you possibly can, even if that means you have to leave some other people behind.

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

awlbiste — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 23:54:15 -0000

I pretty much felt exactly this same way with the ex. After living by myself (and the cat!) again for awhile I feel so much happier and less stressed. Hope you end up being at least as much content as I am.

Also, I forgot just how MUCH I liked living alone. I honestly feel like I don't care if I'm ever in a long-term relationship again.

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

Marylin — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 13:11:25 -0000

*hugs* Better you figure this out now than later, eh?
You need to be happy in your life... if this guy isn't helping you be that, and is in fact making you feel worse? You're definitely better off without.
xxx

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

Ratshag — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 10:18:02 -0000

" I’m just plain tired of feeling this shitty all the time."

Yeah, I know what you mean. The last ten years or so of my marriage to B, that's how I felt. I loved her, I wanted it to work, I wanted to be good and supportive. If I could just find the magic combination, I was sure, then we would connect again and everything would be okay. But we were different people in different places going in different directions and speaking different languages. And ultimately it just wasn't worth being miserable all the time.

I'm sorry things have been unhappy for you. I hope for better things to come.
/hugs

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

SophieRach Wilkinson — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 10:12:56 -0000

Sometimes life does, quite frankly, suck. It is awful and can hurt a lot. But I have been in your exact place but unlike you I wasn't sensible about it - I kept clinging on and the more I *needed* to hear the nice words, the less often he said it, because he didn't think it was necessary, and it went in a slowly descending cycle until I was a needy horrible person and a mess, and he was a cold, harsh bastard.

If you aren't happy, don't stay. You will have learnt a lot of lessons from the relationship and can grow from it.

And if you ever need to chat, there are a lot of people who'll be there for you.

Soph
x

Re: On The Probable End Of A Relationship

Adam Tinworth — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 09:56:29 -0000

It's not easy having a different "love language" to your partner. And sometimes loving someone isn't easy if you can't make them feel loved.

In the end, if you can't find a way to make him understand this issue it will only get worse over time.

Re: What NOT To Say 101

Guest — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 03:45:05 -0000

In fairness, he may have already had plans. The correct thing for him to do was to suggest another time say, the next day, to do something.

My opinion though? Get out. You are not happy and he is not appreciative to you. You deserve to be happy.

Re: What NOT To Say 101

Angela — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 22:55:24 -0000

Yeeeeeah... that really pissed me off. The scary thing is, he still doesn't get why.